Friday, July 30, 2010

Does it count toward attachment parenting if a backpack carrier is used?

Does it count toward attachment parenting if a backpack carrier is used? A backpack carrier seems to be the best option for both myself and my 8 month old son. I wear him around the house as I do chores. He is close to me and gets to see everything I do. But, since he is in a backpack carrier and not a front carrier, I'm wondering if my style of carrier will still count toward the positive theory of attachment parenting.Does it count toward attachment parenting if a backpack carrier is used?
I wear my little one in a sling frequently to get household chores done also. I have no idea what attachment parenting is but he is attached to you ie you're carrying him around so I would thing that would count. As long as your loving and not neglectful I don't see that it matters what ';style'; of parenting you do.Does it count toward attachment parenting if a backpack carrier is used?
What do you mean, does it ';count';?





You don't get points for how closely you follow some arbitrary set of parenting rules. Use whatever works for you. But I would be concerned that your son is not getting to see your face for a big proportion of the day. Would the world really end if he sat in a chair and watched you, and you could talk to him, smile at him etc. as you worked?
I'm pretty sure you can't fail attachment parenting, unless this is for some parenting class you've been forced to take.





Are you worried that, since he's carried on your back, you can't tell people you followed the Attachment Parenting model? Hmm...at some point, you will let all of this go, girl.





Let me give you an example. For my daughter's first birthday, I was still buying all organic ingredients and being EXTREMELY obsessive about what I would allow her to eat. I grated and squeezed beets to get pink food coloring for her 1st birthday cake since I was so afraid of the horrible effects of red dye.





Now my daughter is two, and although I am careful to make sure she gets great nutrition (and this is a kid who now enjoys salad, asparagus, broccoli, and all sorts of foods usually reserved for the adult palate), she can be found at any given time with a hunk of chocolate or a Cheeto or two, too.





What counts is what's in your heart and in your daily show of love for your little one. There is no grade for that from anyone but yourself (and, of course, your child, who may just turn 13, or 17, or 28 and decide that he hasn't become a Nobel Laureate because you carried him on your back instead of your front).





Good luck with that.

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